Consent is not once. Consent is given over and over and over. A dear friend wrote an article about something that really needed to be said, even though it's sad it needed to be said and isn't just known -- sexual consent is not given once on wedding day to last for a lifetime; sexual … Continue reading Idolatry of the penis
My grandfather says he is egalitarian in the church. That is, he believes and practices gender equality in the church. But in marriage, he says, he is complementarian. In marriage, he has a hang up on one word: respect. Egalitarian: term for gender equality used in Christian theology and church practice Complementarian: term for gender … Continue reading Good enough?
I've been thinking about boundaries a lot lately. Author Brené Brown talks about this, too, which is what got me started. I have SO much to write here, so many posts I want to spend time on, but I feel this is more important to say first. You can only be a safe space for … Continue reading Boundaries
Can you see that bird on the roof? Not quite halfway down the tiles, above the tree, there's a funny little shadow of a bird with straw in it's beak. This morning, I was close to having a panic attack. I'm no longer on medication for depression or panic, which is a story I need … Continue reading Look at the sparrows.
I remember the first time I read of Beauty and the Beast, I believe in a Grimm's Fairytale Classics book or something similar. And it was grim. Somehow, though, the story sticks, and the notion of bad becoming good and horrible people changing into handsome princes doesn't fade in a girl's heart, especially as she … Continue reading Beauty and the Beast 2017: a Christian feminist movie review, and Disney finally got it right!
It started when he was 3 months old. Christmas. His grandfather changed his diaper. "Look at that little willie! I'm gonna pinch it off! Pinch it right off!" Papa cooed. It was like some strange game to make the baby laugh, the way grown ups do stupid faces at babies. And I thought, something's uncomfortable. … Continue reading Your chauvinism is showing.
A memory came to mind. Quite some years ago, I saw the interactions of a family where the little girls would run and put on pretty dresses when daddy came home. And it was heartbreaking to watch. The sad thing was not their love of pretty dresses. That's not a problem. God created beauty, and … Continue reading Daddy, what makes me beautiful?