"But, but, my personal experience is that soft comp isn't all that bad. I know people who are really happily married. They don't feel oppressed. They are thriving and blessed and fulfilled. And I'm really happy with my husband in authority in our home, he's not an authoritarian dictator full of sinful male ego like … Continue reading Critique and 9 point answer for egalitarianism
Following on from my previous article, against all forms of gender caste system but specifically in regards to soft complementarianism, I want to address one of the most often used words in the soft comp book: authority. The parallel of Jesus' authority over the church is insufficient argument for husband's authority over wife. Ephesians 5 … Continue reading Against soft comp: authority and consent
Following on from my previous article, defining egalitarianism as apart from all other forms of gender roles within the church, I have more thoughts against all forms of gender caste system but specifically in regards to soft complementarianism. I do not hold the bible to be self-contradictory. When I find what appears to be a … Continue reading Against soft comp: ezer and veil.
It has come to my attention that some of these ideas and concepts surrounding gender equality and gender roles need to be clarified. Defined. In chatting with a few of my sounding board people recently, I realised that there are a lot of people who don't understand. What is the difference between one and the … Continue reading Defining egalitarian, soft complementarian, hard complementarian.
Consent is not once. Consent is given over and over and over. A dear friend wrote an article about something that really needed to be said, even though it's sad it needed to be said and isn't just known -- sexual consent is not given once on wedding day to last for a lifetime; sexual … Continue reading Idolatry of the penis
My grandfather says he is egalitarian in the church. That is, he believes and practices gender equality in the church. But in marriage, he says, he is complementarian. In marriage, he has a hang up on one word: respect. Egalitarian: term for gender equality used in Christian theology and church practice Complementarian: term for gender … Continue reading Good enough?
I've been thinking about boundaries a lot lately. Author Brené Brown talks about this, too, which is what got me started. I have SO much to write here, so many posts I want to spend time on, but I feel this is more important to say first. You can only be a safe space for … Continue reading Boundaries